Mom has Lung Cancer in both lungs, could be advanced

[Dramaqueen]

My God, my Holy God, is there ever a time that there will be good news in my family? I am told last night by my sister that my mother who had been diagnosed with breast cancer three years ago now had lung cancer in both lungs. her breast cancer has been contained for couple of years. Two years ago the doctors found a spot in her lungs and attributed it to scarring and ignored it. Today she is diagnosed with lung cancer which could possibly be advanced as it is in both lungs and very wide spread. I am shocked and in turmoil.

Has anyone in here known someone who has survived advanced stage lung cancer? I am just so upset I can hardly eat. If its not the BIL who is now fine, is now my mother.

When will bad news ever end on my end?

Please send your prayers out to her for some miracle to happen.
Thank you all

[Ajla]

You'd better make your peace with her now, otherwise you'll feel guilty for ever.
And I mean make your peace, whether she wants to or not. Just be clear for yourself.
You seem to get to an age when everybody is ailing. Keep up your spirits!
I'll be thinking of you.

[Dramaqueen]

Originally Posted by Ajla

You'd better make your peace with her now, otherwise you'll feel guilty for ever.
And I mean make your peace, whether she wants to or not. Just be clear for yourself.
You seem to get to an age when everybody is ailing. Keep up your spirits!
I'll be thinking of you.

Yes I will, thanks for your thoughts. It is bothering me very much and I mean very much. Today they will know her vedrict as to what it is and how long they will give her etc. Last year she was coughing up blood and doctors in seattle put her on ANTIBIOTICS when it was lung cancer the woman had. Such faith in the medical system

I wonder tho, if someone opts out of treatment what their chances are of living it out for a while as opposed to treatment? But as I said, we will know her verdict this afternoon seattle time.

[hikingonthru]

Hate to hear that about your mama, DQ. Still, you got some sage advice. If it has spread to both lungs, well even good lung cancer is bad news. Make your peace and spend some time with her now.
Not later. Now.

[Dramaqueen]

Originally Posted by hikingonthru

Hate to hear that about your mama, DQ. Still, you got some sage advice. If it has spread to both lungs, well even good lung cancer is bad news. Make your peace and spend some time with her now.
Not later. Now.

Well time I cant spend because I live in europe and she in the USA, I will visit at some point in time. I will wait to see what is happening. We have been on bad terms for a whole year since my little sister died last Christmas now this. Someone told us that we have a curse in our family, it was daddy 2005, jackie 2008 and now my mother all back to back it seems.

So with lung cancer, once diagnosed is it a quick thing? She has been complaining of having bronchitis for two years or more. WHY didnt they thos quacks take biopsies back then when they saw a spot on her lung, knowing she had breast cancer? Why not? Why treat her for bronchitis. When she coughed up blood last year they did another scan and found spots on the lungs and said it was scar tissue when all this time the woman had cancer in her lungs. Now in both? I am very upset. Even tho we fell out over my sisterÄs death my mother and i were always very close my entire life. It is only this past year we have not spoken.

It seems like a dark black cloud has been on my family sicne December 2004 and from then on the crut came ah tumbling down, one after the next.

[ovenbird]

I sure do feel sorry that you are so far from your momma. I live just over 300 miles from mine. Sometimes that is too close, but now that she is alone, it seems too far. Airline tickets are less expensive in winter than summer, so you'd best be making your travel plans.

Hindsight is so clear, and when medical decisions are involved, it is frustrating. You can spend your time asking "why didn't they", and "why wouldn't they", but what you need to focus on is "what must I do now?" Making peace with your mom is very very high on that list.

God bless you and strengthen you for the task ahead.

[Dramaqueen]

Originally Posted by ovenbird

I sure do feel sorry that you are so far from your momma. I live just over 300 miles from mine. Sometimes that is too close, but now that she is alone, it seems too far. Airline tickets are less expensive in winter than summer, so you'd best be making your travel plans.

Hindsight is so clear, and when medical decisions are involved, it is frustrating. You can spend your time asking "why didn't they", and "why wouldn't they", but what you need to focus on is "what must I do now?" Making peace with your mom is very very high on that list.

God bless you and strengthen you for the task ahead.

thank you, thank you so much. She is not bed ridden, she is still doing everything like normal up until the bad news hit her. Today I will know what travel plans I will need. But I wont go now her Oncologist will tell her the verdict, with that verdict I will choose accordingly. But will she even want to see me? We parted as bitter enemies in Jan this year

[Denninmi]

I'm so sorry for everything which is going on with your life, DQ. You've had more than your fair share to deal with lately.

It depends on what kind of lung cancer. My father, who was a lifelong heavy smoker from age 13 until he died at 73, had adenocarcinoma, and died a month from the date of diagnosis. It was already very advanced when it was discovered, as is common with this form of lung cancer. Patients with this usually live a couple of months on average.

I guess that other types, like mesithelioma (probably not spelled correctly) aren't quite as virulent, and the patient can usually live foo up to a year, from what I've heard.

Unfortuately, there are very few long-term lung cancer survivors, and those few are the ones with an very early diagnosis.

[texman]

There comes a time when it is best to let the past be past. I knew someone who had a bitter dispute with their Dad, but made up a few months later then out of nowhere his Dad suddenly passed away and he said the best thing he ever did was to make up with his Dad while he was still living. Sometimes the easiest thing to do can seem the hardest, maybe a phone call to just say I love you would mean a lot to her.

[Dramaqueen]

Originally Posted by texman

There comes a time when it is best to let the past be past. I knew someone who had a bitter dispute with their Dad, but made up a few months later then out of nowhere his Dad suddenly passed away and he said the best thing he ever did was to make up with his Dad while he was still living. Sometimes the easiest thing to do can seem the hardest, maybe a phone call to just say I love you would mean a lot to her.

You are probably right and i will see about this once I get the news later on from my other sister. If she hangs up on me well I have reached out.